I am so excited to be participating in this class with Stephanie Dawn. I received an email about how to sign up and instantly thought, "This is totally something I should be doing!" Stephanie has been warm and welcoming and has helped me considerably to be able to attend, despite my financial issues.
IN this class we are exploring and defining the old paradigm of birth as :
The Old Paradigm:
1. Does not honor women
2. Does not trust birth
3. Does not respect a woman’s body
4. Does not empower women to do right by themselves
5. Causes unnecessary fear around pregnancy and birth
6. Causes unnecessary power struggles with women
7. Unenlightened Birth Caregivers/”Medical Authority” who assume decision making on behalf of a woman.
8. Does not embody LIGHT and LOVE and PEACE and POWER WITH
9. Instead embodies FEAR, energizes POWER OVER, BODILY AND SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL DISRESPECT and DISEMPOWERMENT
and the new paradigm:
1. Honors women
2. Trusts birth
3. Respects a woman’s body
4. Empowers women to listen to themselves; all aspects (emotional, spiritual, sensual, physical)
5. Birth caregivers and Birth Team energize and exemplify POWER WITH, which EMPOWERS, RESPECTS AND HONORS women ~ keeps playing field level.
6. Keeps choice and informed decision making with the woman
7. Enlightened and AWARE birth caregivers
8. Supports women to birth in LOVE, LIGHT, PEACE
This speaks to me in ways that I can not verbalize as well as Stephanie does. It was mentioned by one of the class participants that the new moms in our culture don't even realize that these 2 different worlds exist and that we need to be able to explain to them what they are up against and how they can achieve more than they ever imagined through birth. I worry about this all the time. How can I help bring awareness to someone who has not yet experienced the Hell or Heaven of birth. It is like leading the blind to figure out what color means. I fear that women may not take it seriously, may not understand the damage to their psyche, their soul that being disempowered can lead to. I want to protect them, to guide them and help them in anyway I can, yet I feel as though there is no way to approach this to ladies who have been so oppressed and abused in the past that they see no problem with the old paradigm.
Stephanie uses an image in her workbook of a sketch of a woman laid on her back on a flat hard surface, tubes attached to her with IVs, blood pressure cuff, heart monitor fetal monitor, several hands around bottom half of her body holding instruments like scissors, clamps, scalpels, vacuum extractor, forceps and she seems ot be unconscious, prone, empty, given up, dead to the world.... It is obscene to me. When I think of the recent images I have found in books and videos of exctatic births, smiling women full of life and love and freedom to express them self through birth, to transform their souls in the process of birthing, in becoming a mother through determination and sweat and tears of joy, overcoming their fears, moving through their previous ideas of what it should be, ignoring the lies that have been ingrained into our brains for so long, looking at the image of this victimized woman incites horror.
To think that women willingly put their entire lives in the hands of doctors everyday that result in trauma that is unnecessary is enough to debilitate me with sadness. But I am choosing to rise above this sadness and turn it into passion to teach, to inform, to love and to protect the sancity of Womanhood and seek the light in this darkness.
I will do my best to educate and trust that the Universe will bring me families that are ready for this path, people will seek me out because they are ready to experience something other than what they have been lead to believe as the only truth there can be. I am special in my own way and have much to offer to our community. I know that I can make a difference and just by me being present and focused I am opening up choices and leading people down a path towards something bigger and better than they ever dreamed possible.
After my last birth, 7 years ago, I still process and reprocess that experience and learn from it all the time. As I study more and understand more, I see ways in which I can still utilize that strength to grow and become the woman I am meant to be, the mother I am and will continue to be and I will mother more than my own children.
I am so filled with excitement as I make this journey. I read a quote today that said if the ship doesn't come in, swim out to it. I am knee deep and ready to tread water to get to this ship. I am meeting it half way as it makes its way to me!